While I consider goal setting a helpful and necessary component to personal growth, it has the potential to cause confusion as far as creating happiness is concerned. This happens when people start associating happiness with the desired outcome instead of viewing happiness as a key factor in achieving a set goal.
We can fall into the habit of making a goal (e.g. studying in order to gain a qualification and a better job) and cultivating the mindset that ‘when we reach this goal we will be happy’. Even though it is often not the goal self, but how we feel in ourselves once we’ve reached it that is creating this happiness. Because you will have conquered a part of yourself and become the ultimate version of you. Who doesn’t want that feeling?
This habit of believing that the only way we can be happy is to reach this goal causes misery within our current situation and leaves us scrounging around for a way to reach this goal immediately. How torturous to be in a situation where happiness is not with you but instead exists in this far away land of ‘goal realisation’.
It creates a situation wherein you believe you don’t deserve happiness now and will need to change yourself in order to be happy.
When we associate happiness with having to change ourselves then the process of changing ourselves also becomes miserable.
It equates to putting ourselves down because we are not yet ‘perfection’.
We need to realise that happiness is right here and right now.
If you have identified that you are ready for a change and have planned the steps on how you will create this change for yourself then give yourself permission to rejoice in this.
Allow the process of creating this ‘changed self’ to be a journey that you enjoy taking.
Know that you deserve happiness just as much now as you will when you reach your goal.
Also that the likelihood of reaching our highest potential is increased when the journey to getting there is an enjoyable one. The satisfaction experienced from reaching the goal is also heightened when we can honestly say that we enjoyed the processing of getting to this point.
This is not to say that the desire from change cannot be sparked out of anger of frustrations. Many great change journeys start because we are unhappy with a current aspect of our life.
Rather that once you have made the decision to change this and penned your plan of action you should own this as a positive steps towards creating your desires, instead of hated journey away from your current self.
Choosing to be happy despite how you may feel about your current situation is what will help fuel you with the energy to move forward and propel you to achieve what you desire.
Giving into the negative voices of self-doubt will do nothing but deflate you and serve no purpose in creating what you desire.
When you hear these voices, turn the volume down.
Amplify only the self-talk that celebrates both who you are now and who you will be when you reach your goal.
Because they are ultimately the same person. Your future self can only exist because your current self has decided to make a change.
Enjoy and embrace.